Children at the preschool level of development are old enough to be scared by the thought of surgery. Preschool aged children tend to fear separation from their parents, mutilation of their bodies and fear pain from any source.
These typical fears can guide your conversation with your child, giving you the opportunity to explain that you will be with them, that the surgery will make them better and not hurt their body, and that medication will be available if they have pain.
Keep in mind that your preschooler may be comforted by having familiar objects present with them, such as their favorite blanket and stuffed animal. Consider bringing their typical activities with them to the hospital, such as reading a book before nap time or brushing their teeth before bed.
After surgery, expect your preschooler to be irritable and much more difficult to deal with than is normal. As difficult as it may be, it is essential for you to exhibit patience with your child during this trying time. This should be a temporary phase, decreasing as your child’s pain level is relieved and life returns to normal. Do not hesitate to enlist help caring for your child from friends or family during this stressful time.
If your child enjoys coloring, you may want to use this tool, a Printable Surgery Coloring Book that helps explain surgery to children.
